I can’t speak for everyone, but I do know this about myself: I’m not particularly inventive when it comes to my picture of what success is.
How do I define success?
I see it on someone else and I want it. Whatever it is that they posses or have attained or are currently doing – that’s what I want.
In fact, I don’t think I’ve ever made a truly unique goal for myself. All my goals have been modeled after someone who was more successful than me.
I see someone’s house that is better than mine and now I want one like it.
I see someone with a leadership gift that is different than mine and now I want to be like him.
I see someone who is older than me and in better shape than I am and now I want to try her workout plan.
I see a church that’s bigger than any church I’ve seen before and now I want my church to be like that.
I hate admitting this. Especially because I consider myself to be a creative-type… but I seem to lack creativity when it comes to my goal-setting and defining of success. Rather than attempting something that’s never been done before, I spend all my efforts trying to be like someone else.
It’s a comparison game. Constantly measuring, evaluating, comparing…
And it never satisfies.
It always leaves me longing for MORE.
I used to think the ultimate goal in life was to get to the top. Being the best, most successful, biggest, strongest, richest, most powerful – this is the key to being satisfied, confident, and secure, right?
I used to believe that. But I don’t believe it anymore.
There have been a few times in my life where I experienced a measure of success, rose to the top of whatever totem pole I was a part of, and even reached my goal of being like whomever I had been comparing myself to at the time.
At the top, in my “success,” the insecurities were still there. I wasn’t any happier in my high position than in my previous low one. The comparisons didn’t go away. The grumbling in my soul for MORE remained.
I used to believe success would make my insecurities go away. Now I know it’s not true.
I don’t know the secrets of how to live satisfied, confident, and secure. I presume Tony Robbins can sell you the answers to that question in his books Unlimited Power and Awaken the Giant Within. *sarcasm*
What I do know is this: I’d like to be more creative.
Rather than playing the comparison game, I want to have a fresh vision from God for my life. I don’t want all my goals to be about MORE.
I want to enjoy life. I want to be who God made me to be.
I want to be fully present, living now – knowing who I am and what I have – and being content there.
It is better to see what you have than to want MORE. Wanting MORE is useless, like chasing the wind. —Ecclesiastes 6.9
ADD YOUR VOICE: How do you picture success? Do you think success cures or satisfies anything in us?