Men Need To Hear What Women Have To Say (Why Patriarchy Is Still A Problem)

Patriarchy has been around forever – and it is still here today.

According to Webster:

Patriarchy is… social organization marked by the supremacy of the father in the clan or family, the legal dependence of wives and children, and the reckoning of descent and inheritance in the male line; control by men of a disproportionately large share of power.

Or basically, “The dudes make all the important decisions, and the women quietly submit to them.”

Of course, much has changed in Western society – but around the world and within the church, many (dudes) are still clinging to patriarchy. In the news this week a story of 100+ school girls being kidnapped by Islamic extremists in Nigeria is a jarring reminder of what’s at the heart of patriarchy… Read More

Chuza’s Wife

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I wouldn’t want to live in a world without women.


Without women, the world would be a (more) smelly, messy, harsh, and violent place.

OK, maybe that’s a broad generalization. But seriously, women do make the world a better place… Read More

Some Friday Fun & Free Stuff

I was out of town for a week and took a little blogging break. Now I’m back with some Friday fun and free stuff for ya…



touch by rudy rasmus book

You could win this great book by Pastor Rudy RasmusTouch: Pressing Against the Wounds of a Broken World (I heard Rudy’s wife, Juanita, speak at a conference in Houston last week and couldn’t wait to get this book about their ministry—I read it cover to cover on my 4 hour flight home). All you need to do is comment below and you will be automatically entered… Read More

I’m not (much of) a man. Can you help?

I recently walked in to the office and saw a friend of mine sitting there. She looked a little different – I noticed that she was wearing mascara. I pointed to my eyes and said, “What’s this? You have a new look.”

She looked a little embarrassed and said, “Oh, some friends suggested that I try it. I’m not a girl, so I never wear makeup.”

I said, “I understand completely. I’m not a man either. I don’t hunt or fish and I like to cook and decorate and make art…”

We laughed together, a couple of misfits. Then I told her she looked nice.

My “I’m not a man” statement is something that I do feel. I am a man, yes. But the overly exaggerated stereotype of what it means… Read More

I Don’t Want To Be A Protest Ant

I’m a protestant (which means I’m part of that “branch” of Christianity that isn’t the Roman Catholic church). It’s rather embarrassing to admit that I didn’t even understand that Catholics are Christians until a few years ago. I wrote about this at length in my post “Stuff I Don’t Believe Anymore.”

The word protestant comes from the root protest. That’s what Martin Luther did in 1517. He took issue with the policies, practices, and beliefs of the Catholic church. And when his points weren’t received, he started creating a new church.

I’m beginning to wonder if it’s deep in our protestant DNA to protest; to be protest ants… Read More