The picture above shows London Hagebusch carrying a heavy bag of groceries. Just behind her is Haven Wheeler. And a number of other children were there too…
They were helping at our Thanksgiving Grocery Give Stuffing Party – it’s the event the day before the event. We ask people to come set everything up for the big day. The Stuffing Party was noticeably, beautifully diverse – people of all ages and races and socio-economic backgrounds serving together. Perhaps most striking, though, was the image of young children throwing themselves into the task. I mean, they were actually sweating. And they were having a blast.
I’m not sure if we made a big enough of a deal about it.
I think it probably got mentioned a few times – like in church during our “main” services. But I wonder if we made a big enough of a deal about it with the kids.
Please take a minute to watch this video of Rabbi Joseph Telushkin talking about how we teach kindness. Here’s a summary of what he’s saying…
Parents should reserve their highest praise of their children for when their children do a kind act.
Children generally get their praise for one of four things…
1. Academic achievements
2. Athletic abilities
3. Artistic achievements (cultural)
4. Appearance and looks (especially girls)
If we as parents would reserve our highest praise for when our children do something kind…
We’d raise a generation of people who most love themselves when doing kind things.
and that’s transformitive.
One last thing: I also wonder about this principle within the church, not just with children. What would happen if we reserved our highest praise for when our people did something loving and kind?
And I wonder what are the types of things (like the list of 4 things children get praised for above) we are praising, rewarding, talking about, tweeting about, bragging about, when it comes to the entire church?
What do you think?