I recently walked in to the office and saw a friend of mine sitting there. She looked a little different – I noticed that she was wearing mascara. I pointed to my eyes and said, “What’s this? You have a new look.”
She looked a little embarrassed and said, “Oh, some friends suggested that I try it. I’m not a girl, so I never wear makeup.”
I said, “I understand completely. I’m not a man either. I don’t hunt or fish and I like to cook and decorate and make art…”
We laughed together, a couple of misfits. Then I told her she looked nice.
My “I’m not a man” statement is something that I do feel. I am a man, yes. But the overly exaggerated stereotype of what it means to be man never resonates with me. My guess is that a few other guys feel similarly.
Perhaps this is why I’ve never really wanted to participate in what the church calls “men’s ministry.”
And yet, I know there is a need for guys in the church to make connections, build friendships, and do stuff together.
This is where I need your help (if you’re a man – or a guy like me)…
What kind of an activity for guys, put on by the church, would you actually sign up for and participate in?
Think about it for a minute. I have.
It’s a tough question, because I generally don’t want to do any of the usual things. I don’t golf (because I’m terrible at it). A men’s retreat is like some kind of punishment for me (please let me sleep at home in bed with my wife!). Saturday morning breakfast with singing and some good ol’ fashioned “Man Up!” preaching is always gonna have me on the run (as in out of town).
So I really did think hard. What would I sign up for and actually participate in?
• I’d get together with some guys to hit up one of the top 5 burger joints in our region.
• I’d go to a Capital Cities concert with a group of guys (and maybe our wives too), or go to the Deck The Hall Ball in December.
• I’d participate in a Father/Daughter Date Night – dinner and Whirlyball or something.
• I’d go to a car show (especially if they had German cars at it).
There might be other things too. But that’s my list for now.
I know, I know. I’m weird. And not much of a man… so can you help?
Serious. I need suggestions. What is something you’d sign up for and participate in?
Mariner’s game? Sailing lessons? Thunderbirds game? Golf? Brewing Beer? Paintballing? Skydiving? Shopping for clothes at Southcenter? (Haha. Just kidding about that last one. Unless you want to, because I do it all the time).
Post below in the comments. Share your ideas. They will be used to create an online survey that we’ll be asking all the guys at NWLife to take. Thank you!
One last thing – I don’t love fishing, but I love this video compilation of an unlucky fisherman…