From Trevor Hudson’s book A Mile in My Shoes: Cultivating Compassion.
We grow toward Christlikeness as we become more caring. A non-caring Christ-follower is a contradiction in terms. However, we cannot show real concern, especially for those in pain, unless we first take time to listen.
We can only love those to whom we genuinely listen.
For this reason, if we intend to put our lives alongside those who suffer and reflect to them the compassion of Christ, our presence must always be a listening one. This could be why James encouraged his readers to “be quick to listen, slow to speak” (James 1.19).
Christians are not well known for their listening.
Often our own inability to listen well has made others feel isolated, unaccepted, and unloved. Thankfully, we can all learn to listen better. While few people seem naturally gifted as listeners, most of us need to develop this vital gateway to compassion. Few activities require as much energy, effort, and patience. Involving at least three basic steps, good listening enables us to grow in the Compassionate Way.
1. Stop Talking.
2. Give total attention to the one speaking.
3. Communicate understanding of what is shared.
Against the backdrop of these basic guidelines, I invite you to asses the quality of your current listening ability.
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