Comments on: The Honesty And BS Graph

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Wed, 23 Jul 2014 21:25:43 +0000

[…] This series on Honesty: “Honest People Scare Me (& I Think I’m Starting To Like It),” “I Want To Be Honest, But Not Really,” & “The Honesty & B.S. Graph.” […]

By: Brian Dolleman

Brian Dolleman — Sun, 03 Nov 2013 15:23:56 +0000

We need to make that happen. I think food should be included too.

By: Amber Richards

Amber Richards — Sun, 03 Nov 2013 15:22:17 +0000

Confession–Would love to hang out with you and Shari! Always wanted to say it but never had the courage! We look up to you! There I said it!

By: Erin

Erin — Thu, 03 Oct 2013 22:48:50 +0000

Wow. Love Robb’s comment!!

“Also, what I find absolutely astounding is that it seems like the more my mouth moves the more BS comes out of it. Which I detest. But the more I write, the more pure and honest I am. So my goal for the next 30 days is to talk half as much as I used to and write twice as much.”

That is FABULOUS!!! I could have written that myself!

I have read all three posts. It seems I’m normal. Whatever that means. Fear of rejection, fear of looking stupid, sounding dumb, somebody won’t like me any more… It’s in all of us. It’s in me fer sure. I’m getting better about it tho. But here’s the thing… While I find it easy to tell a little white lie… especially when it’s something simple, something that’s not going to hurt someone… I don’t want you to lie to me. Ever. For any reason. I have this double standard thing going. **Sigh**
And once I catch you telling a little white lie… I’m all over it and trying to figure you out!!

Little white lies… They’re a defense mechanism. I believe we all do it. Even you PB. When the situation calls for it… when it won’t hurt anyone. You’re busted. I won’t spill here… but I’ll tell you if you ask me.

I am thankful daily that there’s Grace for that. Because I’m guilty too.

Good stuff PB. Good stuff.

By: Brian Dolleman

Brian Dolleman — Thu, 03 Oct 2013 16:39:53 +0000

Robb – your writing is honest, transparent, real. You have a voice, a gift. Keep it up.

By: Robb

Robb — Thu, 03 Oct 2013 16:01:54 +0000

Honesty is a hard thing. I find it very easy to be brutally honest and very difficult to embellish.

I have learned, through much practice and reading, that most people don’t want brutal honesty they want you to embellish.

So I have this build up of BS that I have been lavishing on people all week. Enter my mentor/listening ear. I dump the BS on him. He sits and listens, offers advice and I get to empty my BS bucket. It’s wonderful.

What happens if my I don’t get to dump my BS bucket on my mentor? It usually ends up with a lot of repenting to my family.

Also, what I find absolutely astounding is that it seems like the more my mouth moves the more BS comes out of it. Which I detest. But the more I write, the more pure and honest I am. So my goal for the next 30 days is to talk half as much as I used to and write twice as much.

Wow, reading that back, I was a bit brutally honest, on myself.

Feels great!

By: Shawn

Shawn — Thu, 03 Oct 2013 15:32:29 +0000

The safest person I know is my wife. Outside of that, I have people in my life of varying degrees of safety. Unfortunately, after encountering unsafe people, we can master the art of BSing. Nothing is more draining and wearing than surfacy, cliche talk—both being the recipient and the distributor. I never leave those “conversations” (if you can call them that) feeling good. The few people I have that are on the safer side are people I love to surround myself with.